I’m thrilled to share the final piece of Angie Webber’s story as she walks us through their journey into foster care and the adoption of their daughter.
Where we end, God can begin.
As I have explained, we always wanted more children, and we started to look into foster parenting. Because we lived with my parents and grandmother, we didn’t want to impose the hectic world of foster care on my family but when we received their blessing to pursue the possibility, we had no excuses.
After talking to the Department of Human Services, off we went to training, interviews, and paperwork. Paperwork—save some trees, people. We really didn’t believe we would make it through all the red tape.
We had a lot of baggage ourselves, and the training stirred up many childhood memories for Jeff and I both. And I still had some health issues they were not supportive of regarding the treatment so, at first, we weren’t approved, and they asked for more documentation.
I talked to my mother and she said, “Do what they asked you to do and if they say no again, then you’ll know.”
So, we completed the requirements, and then I went and found a job, thinking they wouldn’t approve us. But they did!
I found myself with a full-time job and a full-time kiddo.
We had nine kids come through our home in the first year. I learned quickly that the littles wore me out, and we had to increase our age of children.
Selena was our seventh foster child in a year. She was just the most adorable little girl. Her smile was joyful, and she was sassy and bossy. Hmmm, sounds a little like me. Hahaha.
Selena’s nine years of life were as traumatic as they come and then some.
She required an extended stay in a behavioral health facility, but we never left her. Even when she pushed us away, we kept supporting her and helped her feel safe and loved.
With foster kids, you never know the disposition that will follow. Would they go home to their parents, or would it be determined they’d stay permanently? Our prayers were all over the place.
We were totally in love with her, but we wanted to make sure we had submitted to God’s will.
The more of her past that came out, the more in love we were. She was so broken, and boy could I relate to that. While I won’t share the specifics of her story here, her brokenness appealed to mine.
When she came through the door in October 2017, she didn’t know much about God, but oh my, how she loved Him. There was also this joy that radiated from her.
How in the world did all that joy survive all that trauma?
As we started peeling back the layers of trauma, I thought of the verse that says, “Take off the old man and put on the new man.”
We were building a little girl.
We had to un-teach wrong behaviors as we taught new ones. We worked hard to earn her trust, and she began to want ours. We taught grace by giving it. She didn’t even know what grace was, and then she began to give grace as a part of her recovery.
The hard, outer shell started to crack. The love of Christ was invading her heart. The fruit of the spirit started sweetening her spirit.
As God worked on Selena, He worked on our hearts leading us through a process of faith toward adoption.
I didn’t really want to adopt Selena at first. I think her behavior held me back some. Knowing what some foster parents have gone through really scared me.
As I prayed, God continued to press on my heart that He would meet me all along the way.
The courts terminated Selena’s biological parents’ parental rights in June 2019, and in God’s great mercy and in His perfect plan, as of May 19, 2020, she officially became a Webber!
The decision to adopt Selena is still a step by step walk constantly trusting the Lord to meet me and step in when I feel lost.
How could we have ever known that in the moments of life God was putting together a plan for hope. It is only through a deep relationship with Christ the seeds of hope are planted.
After an abortion recovery class through a local ministry, I have been truly able to start healing from the summer of 1986. People often say I need to forgive myself, but I don’t believe I hold the power to forgive my own sin. Especially when I took a life that was not mine to take.
I love my relationship with my God.
It is one I cherish on a minute by minute basis. The amount of lives that have touched mine, along with the amount of lives that I have touched, and the ripple effect from those relationships is quite stunning if you think about it.
That doesn’t mean it was all good. There are certainly times I have hurt others and times where I was hurt, but in this lifetime, I hope I can touch many lives for the glory of God.
My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. John 10:27
And Hope Continues
Now, I am starting to resume my acting career. I’m not sure where this is going as we are at the beginning of this journey, but I know there is hope before me. God is opening doors and I’m excited to see where He leads me.
Join the conversation. Have you ever fostered children or adopted? What encouragement could you offer to someone considering foster care and adoption? Let Angie know if her story has blessed you in some way.
Ms. Angie is a Christian woman navigating her way to eternity in a broken world. She is a daughter, wife, mother, friend, and actor. All these titles have so many different meanings, yet they’re all apart of God’s story for her life. She has parents who love her dearly, a husband to whom she’s been married since 1987, two amazing sons and daughters-in-law, a precious adopted princess, and the most charming grandson. Angie recently followed her dream and began a new adventure in acting. Her prayer is that her journey will encourage you through yours.
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